I’m always on the idea hunt for neat, concise, and ideally alliterative distinctions that will allow me to assess and optimize aspects of my internal (thought) and external (physical) behavior.
Work on the next Awareness challenge is already under way, and this time there’s going to be an expanding emphasis on everyone’s favorite topic: Behavior!
In the Ever Better lexicon, Behavior consists of What You Do, What You Don’t Do, and How You Do/Don’t Do Those Things.
Behavior is significant because it is the conduit through which your Focus and Feelings manifest themselves and find permanent(-ish) physical form in your External Reality.
The content of your Focus is always either some combination of Irrelevant, Unchangeable, and Negative (i.e. Mental Clutter) or Relevant, Changeable, and Positive.
Your Feelings and Internal Experiences are characterized by either Regret, Resistance, and Worry (Emotional Clutter) or Remembering, Responding, and Requesting.
Regret, Resistance, and Worry/Remembering, Responding, Requesting have to do with your emotional orientation towards your past, your present, and your future, respectively.
Today I came up with useful classifications of Behavior. Our Behaviors are either:
Productive and/or Proactive and/or Passionate
Rudderless and/or Reactive and/or Recalcitrant.
Here’s a brief description of each:
Productive: creating something useful in your life.
Proactive: making some kind of “life experience headway”; not simply getting buy, but engaging in useful behavior that will generate ongoing dividends into the future.
Passionate: this is obvious: you LOVE what you’re doing. Anything you don’t love doing you will do sub-optimally. Some of this is avoidable, but make sure that the most important areas of your life can be advanced by doing things that you love doing.
Rudderless: aimless, pointless, non-productive. Zig Ziglar’s “wandering generality”.
Reactive: this is responding to whatever is “latest and loudest”.
– This is crisis management mode.
– You can be Productive and still dissipate most of your mental, emotional, and physical energy responding to the consequences of not having adequate systems in place in your life.
– This is more work for less reward; you deserve much better.
– Invest your behavior (Proactive), don’t spend it in figurative or literal survival mode (Reactive)
Recalcitrant: this is mainly not responding to the Feedback life is providing you.
– Doing things the way you’ve always done them simply because you’ve always done them that way simply because that’s the way you’ve always done them simply because…
– This is being at the mercy of habits rather than having habits that serve you.
– Wasting your life on recalcitrant behaviors is the opposite of Automated Excellence, it is Automatic Mediocrity.
– You deserve Better and Better is immediately accessible to you.