Are you stingy in your use of positive “Reactions” on Facebook?
Once upon a time, I was ridiculously calculated in whether and how I reacted to the various things that popped up in my newsfeed.
How I Reacted publicly was not necessarily an accurate reflection of how I actually reacted to seeing what I did, and most of the time what I put “on the record” had more to do with what I wanted to people to know I was looking at and how I wanted them to think I felt about it.
The ironic thing about this was that I had always been one of those people who was quite critical of those who make obvious efforts to control their image on social media.
You know the type: the ones who upload a new obviously enhanced profile picture every other day and for whom much of life seems to be engineered around considerations of what will appear best when documented on social media.
Of course, in retrospect, it is clear to me that what I was observing and disapproving of and criticizing in these people was actually a reflection of what was going on with myself.
Instead of posting carefully choreographed visual illustrations of how wonderful my life was, I was indulging in a kind of intellectual exhibitionism, carefully crafting an image of myself as a smart, efficient, no-nonsense guy who I thought others would find impressive.
I would “Love” the science article I didn’t actually read and register no official reaction to the “kitten hugging an owl” video that I watched three times, sent to Melissa, and from which I derived a great deal of amusement and joy.
The weirdest thing about all of this is that I didn’t consciously care what anyone else thought about my social media exploits.
I didn’t even actually think that anybody else cared about what I was doing, either.
And yet there is no doubt that I had a background PR program running that functioned as a kind of attention-allocation Photoshop that suggested that the me I wanted to be perceived by others was somehow other than the me I actually perceived myself to be.
Then one day I became aware of how much mental and emotional energy I was expending over time on this silly little vanity project that wasn’t even important to me.
It also became really obvious how weird and unattractive (to me) this preoccupation was, and I was suddenly acutely aware of how much freedom and improvement in What It Is Like To Be Me would come from giving it up.
In openly acknowledging to myself other peoples’ freedom to perceive me however they like, I also give myself the freedom of simply being as I am without the encumbrance of wondering whether or to what extent this or that aspect of my being will be embraced and accepted by others.
There is also some exhilarating relief in the knowledge that, whatever others think me, they almost certainly think less of me (in terms of frequency of thought) than I think they do.
Lately, I have been playing with a fun little social media project that you might enjoy trying in your own life.
Instead of being a positive reaction tightwad, treating “Likes” and “Loves” and “Hahas” like scarce social currency, consider using the Facebook reactions feature to accurately document your positive reactions to what you see in your Newsfeed.
Rather than showing approval as a means of enhancing your own image, perhaps try showing your approval from a place of abundance, expressing good-feeling appreciation for those things that enrich your experience and add a little something to What It Is Like To Be You.
This abundance mentality is incredibly powerful, and I have found it immensely profitable to practice it at every opportunity.
With most of us spending as much time on social media as we do, do you think it might be a good idea to incorporate demonstrations of abundance into your activity there?
Cute animal videos may seem trivial, but your enjoyment is not, and anything that makes you feel good is more than worthy of your attention and your approval.
It can be fun to think of the reactions as a way of making an accurate documentary of the good feelings you experience throughout the course of the day.
And the effect that this positive authenticity can have on your Vibrational Offering, and on the experiences that you attract and the effect that these experiences have on the quality of What It Is Like To Be You will absolutely amaze you.
Next week I’m going to expand on this topic and share some thoughts about how Law of Attraction applies to our social media lives.
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As always thank you so much for reading. Melissa and I both love and appreciate you and are so grateful that you continue to choose to include us in the creative adventure of your life.